Catholic Dating How To: Conversation Starters
Catholic dating, or any dating at all, is difficult. When you are new to something, there is no doubt you will find it difficult to communicate with others. Put two people who do not know each other in the same room, of opposite sex and chances are good you both will find something to talk about. As you prepare for your first date, you may be worried about just that. What will you talk about? It does not matter if you have known this person for a year or may even be just meeting them for the first time. What will there be to talk about?
Deep Breaths and Avoiding Mistakes
First off, take a deep breath and know that in most situations, these conversations will play out just fine on their own. You may not have to do anything but just chat with the other person. With that in mind, there are a few things not to do.
- Avoid topics that cause tension, such as politics, on a first date.
- Avoid preaching to others about your religion. Mentioning it is just fine, but this is not the place to try and convert a non believer.
- Avoid all of those date lines that you may hear. Those funny movie lines really do not work when it comes to dates. It is important to note that off the wall comments that are not appropriate should be avoided all together.
Tips For Conversations
Now that you know what not to do, what should you be doing when it comes to starting a conversation? With Catholic dating, there are topics that are completely disallowed. Beyond that, consider the following tips that can help you to start conversations on a first or second date.
- Ask about their job. If you know they are working, ask them what they do, how their day was, or what career path they are on.
- If they are in school, find out what their goals are for the future.
- If you are going to see a movie, freshen up on the other movies the stars of the show have been in so that you can talk about those.
- Be honest about the information you are sharing. Remember that as a Catholic, you are looking for an honest relationship. There is no benefit in being dishonest here.
- Talk about local events, church outings or even friends that you both share.
- Start a conversation about what you did today, or on another day that was significant.
It does not take much to get a conversation going. What is important to note is that you want to focus on topics that start positive conversations. Try to avoid topics that are just negative or depressing. You want your date to be memorable for all of the right reasons. Once again, leave politics out of the picture, at least for right now. Later, all of those other topics can be discussed, including religion.